I have a gift…
I have a gift for seeing who my clients really are.
Regardless of their age, their position, or their financial situation, I can see a young child or a boy or girl who used to dream.
It is a privilege for me to meet their true identity.
After a few minutes or a few hours of our sessions, their faces start to smile and their eyes shine. It feels as though I’m at a reunion with my middle school friends. The same old good friends but just in different body shapes or older faces. We share our life stories and sometimes laugh at ourselves. I finally get to meet their souls and spirits instead of their titles or job positions.
Sometimes, we are too caught up in our past that we tend to carry them to our present. Our past dictates our presence, and we allow ourselves to dwell on it. Repeating the same things and the same thoughts. Being the same person from yesterday, last month, or even last year.
Some experiences contribute to our growth and some of them limit us to becoming small and weak.
Isn’t it time to put our yesterday behind us and become a new person today? Holding on to our past prevents us from creating a different future.
We see ourselves defined by our past experiences, knowledge, or external opinions. But experiences are only experiences, just like the different seasons or the changing weather.
Seasons pass, whether or not we give meaning to them. They contribute to the growth of the living, good or bad. That’s what nature is! It isn’t swayed by opinion, trauma, or guilt.
Nature doesn’t give meaning to experiences, they just grow and contribute to the earth’s life cycle.
But unlike nature, why do human beings put so much meaning into their past?
People, money, success…they tend to become the driving forces of life’s meaning. And that shouldn’t be the case.
Yesterday, one of my new clients told me that he is constantly stressed. He knows that he needs to change but he doesn’t know how. Turns out that his past experiences created this certain kind of fear. He created his own identity as a stressed man, repeating the past and imposing his own meaning on it.
He said that he wants to unlearn….
I honor his vulnerability and the recognition that he needed help.
Most of the time when I start with new clients, my approach to coaching is DEprogramming old habits or changing past beliefs or meanings that do not serve their growth. Then, we begin creating new possibilities.
We start with awareness. And it takes immense courage to finally acknowledge that we can sometimes be prisoners of our past.
Once we get past that, the sense of freedom installs again and we regain the power of our lives.
The creation of the new ME starts.